If you are preparing for your first divorce mediation session, you may be unsure of what to expect. Mediation is a confidential and structured process focused on resolution, but it is very different from going to court.
At the start of the session, the mediator will explain their role and outline the ground rules. The mediator is a neutral facilitator who does not take sides, does not make decisions, and does not provide legal advice. Instead, the mediator provides information to help both parties communicate more effectively, clarify the issues that need to be addressed, and explore possible solutions. The mediator’s role is to guide the process in a way that is fair, respectful, and productive.
Some mediations begin with everyone in the same room or on the same video call. In other cases, the mediator may meet separately with each party (called “shuttle mediation”). This structure may shift during the session depending on what seems most comfortable and useful. You may spend time together discussing shared concerns, and then meet individually with the mediator to talk through sensitive or more complex issues. These private meetings (called “caucuses”), can allow each person to speak more freely and to evaluate proposals without added pressure.
The tone of mediation is different from traditional litigation. Mediation is often informal, private, and focused on problem-solving. The conversations are not recorded, and nothing discussed can be used later in court. The goal is to reach an agreement that both parties can accept. While no one can be forced to settle, mediation works best when both participants are willing to listen, consider options, and compromise where possible.